The Facts of Life by Pádraig Ó Tuama

The Facts of Life
by Pádraig Ó Tuama

That you were born
and you will die.

That you will sometimes love enough
and sometimes not.

That you will lie
if only to yourself.

That you will get tired.

That you will learn most from the situations
you did not choose.

That there will be some things that move you
more than you can say.

That you will live
that you must be loved.

That you will avoid questions most urgently in need of
your attention.

That you began as the fusion of a sperm and an egg
of two people who once were strangers
and may well still be.

That life isn’t fair.
That life is sometimes good
and sometimes even better than good.

That life is often not so good.

That life is real
and if you can survive it, well,
survive it well
with love
and art
and meaning given
where meaning’s scarce.

That you will learn to live with regret.
That you will learn to live with respect.

That the structures that constrict you
may not be permanently constricting.

That you will probably be okay.

That you must accept change
before you die
but you will die anyway.

So you might as well live
and you might as well love.
You might as well love.
You might as well love.

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Like so much of Padraig’s poetry, there’s such a simple truthiness to it. Yes to all of this, to surviving it well with meaning. And yes we may as well love.

The Facts of Life is from Pádraig Ó Tuama's Sorry for Your Troubles (Canterbury Press, 2013), his third book — written during his work at Corrymeela, the peace and reconciliation community in Northern Ireland. The volume takes its title from the Irish idiom of condolence.